Apr 24 2014

Are You Here Now?

Published by Cathie under Main

“Be where you are otherwise you will miss your life.” Buddha

Yesterday this concept was illustrated to me while I was picking up our grandson after kindergarten–all day kindergarten, a long time for little boys to be held hostage in a classroom. I was standing outside so Charlie could see my face when he exited the classroom, always very important, and another little boy saw his father, shrieked and ran up to him. The father didn’t even look up. He was consumed with whatever bit of gossip was on his smart phone. The little boy wondered where his mommy was, and the father, while never looking up, explained that she was sick and he was picking him up. The little boy clambered for his father’s attention and finally the father looked away from his phone and said, “Let’s hurry up and go, son.”

Life hurries past us and as we grow more mature there is more on our plates and the days zoom by. If you are not here now you will miss your life, and if you’re the parent of small children, you will miss their childhood.

Live in the present moment is the second step of The Way. It is important that you learn the art of living in the moment. Modern life tries to steal your moments away with technology. I always chuckle when I see a family out for dinner and everyone is on their phones. No one is conversing. I wonder if they text each other while sitting at the table.

Technology is here to stay, but you don’t have to let it steal your moments. Strive to live in the moment as you move and flow through this day and remember that this day will never come again.

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Apr 22 2014

Have You Set Your Boundaries?

Published by Cathie under Main

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” Brene Brown

If you met me for coffee and talked about people taking energy from you, I’d probably look you straight in the eye and say, “Get over it. People will attempt and steal your energy every day, especially the ones who lack their own. You’ve got to learn to deal with it and the word no works well.”

 The third step of The Way reminds you to stay away from energy thieves, who are people who suck your energy for their own consumption. They are everywhere, and they have learned the art of manipulation to get what they want. If you are tired of being everyone’s servant, tired of the people in your life who take from you without giving back, tired of the people who violate your boundaries, then stand tall, surround yourself with white light, and say NO! Do not waste your energy on people posing to be friends. It’s okay to say no to a family member. Just because you grew up together in the playroom doesn’t mean you are their doormat.

Have you ever wondered why we subject ourselves to people who violate our boundaries. (Another way to look at this is personal property rights. You would call the police if someone trespassed. Hmm. Who do you call if someone steps over your boundary and sucks your energy?” And sorry, it’s not one of the Ghostbusters!)

You need to stand firm in your personal power. While every religion and spiritual tradition stresses helping others who need help, helping does not imply doing for others. A great example is young children, who must learn the art of manipulation in uterus. They look up at you with those large clear eyes and innocently say, “I can’t do it, Nana. Will you?” If it is something they can do, and most of the time it is, I tell them no, but I will guide them as they complete the task–like cleaning their rooms, picking up their toys, brushing their teeth. (I didn’t make that mess.)

Examine your own boundaries. Are their some that are weak and need reinforcement? Most of us have a few because, after all we are human, and we are all seeking validation. It’s part of the human experience. But what I’ve learned is that when I no longer need to seek external approval, I am at my most powerful and my most proficient.

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Apr 21 2014

Developing Spiritual Discipline

Published by Cathie under Main

“As rain seeps through an ill-thatched hut, passion will seep through an untrained mind.” Buddha

Just like a leaky roof allows rain to enter one’s house, a poorly trained mind allows energy and thoughts to enter that one really doesn’t want. Developing spiritual discipline and a well-trained mind are tools we all need in our toolbox that is life. Life shows no mercy for the weak. Life respects those with strong minds and wills. So how does one develop spiritual discipline?

Pick a tradition. I don’t think it matters what spiritual discipline. They all have the same message.  Spiritual traditions are like shoes. Some fit better than others. Some you outgrow. Some are stepping stones to others. Study the messages. Spend time in prayer and contemplation. Sit in meditation, allowing your mind to become in sync with your breath. When thoughts come through, and trust me they will, let them go through your mind without judgment. Don’t get attached. Install storm windows in your mind. It can be raining outside, but inside you are warm and safe.

Read the masters. Study their words. Bring their teachings into your life. Outside the weather may be miserable, but inside your being you will be safe and secure.

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