“Plenty of people miss their share of happiness, not because they never found it, but because they didn’t stop to enjoy it.” William Feather
Electricity, technology, and increased demands on our time has caused many of us to work more. Unfortunately, there are adverse effects on one’s health and psyche if one becomes out of balance. For example, one of my employees, who starts his workday with two large coffees, three energy drinks, is my number one sales person, and is constantly on edge to get that next sale, has landed in the hospital with internal bleeding. His vitals went so low they were afraid he was going to flat line. I think his soul is telling him he must slow down, not put too much on his plate. Coupled with his work stress, he is moving. A recipe for disaster.
If you find yourself overly stressed and not in the moment, you need to learn to slow down. When you rush through life, you miss the daily magic, the scent of the flowers, the hug of your child or loved one, and the time to just sit and stare out the window and re-center your being. But Life isn’t that way anymore. We are pushed to multi-task, continually have our eyes on our smart phones, and eat on the run. If you find yourself in this situation, here are a few things you can do that will start you in the process of slowing down. 1. Eat slowly. Chew your food deliberately. Don’t perform other activities when you are eating as this usually causes over-eating. 2. Block out unscheduled time. In other words, grant yourself recess. 4. Turn off your phone. We have been conditioned to have our phones by our sides twenty-four hours a day. Give yourself a break. Unless there is an emergency, it can wait until the next day. 5. Learn to say no. It’s okay. You will still be a good person if you say no to someone. I’ve gotten much better at this, having learned from my three grandchildren who are skilled at this.
“To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one’s own in the midst of abundance.” Buddha
There is an ancient law that states if we desire more abundance in our lives we must create a vacuum to receive the abundance we seek. The Universe is sneaky and it abhors a vacuum, so it will rush to fill a void if one is created. The trick is to create the void you desire, not someone else. Everyone wants abundance. The media is full of suggestions. We dream of that new car or house. Does more stuff make you happy? Does the person with the most toys win? Can you create a different kind of abundance in your life?
Abundance does not have to be possessions. It can be opportunities, experiences, and people and this results in cleaner closets and less items to dust. If you desire abundance in your life, you must first clear out what is no longer working and detach from your wants. When you rid yourself of all the accumulation you no longer need, you open your life to possibilities. Clear out what you don’t need. (And sometimes that’s people who hold you back, ideas which are outdated, and experiences you no longer enjoy.) Do what you love and be ready to receive with an open and grateful heart. As Thoreau said, “What is called genius is the abundance of life and health.” Isn’t that better than stuffed closets and an overflowing garage? Learn to let go.
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.” Jim Rohn
Personal responsibility is your duty. It’s your life, your future, and you are the one in the driver’s seat. Sadly, our society has evolved to the point where more people expect things given to them instead of putting on their big girl/big boy panties and making it happen. I must do something solves more problems than saying something must be done. I remember as a kid John F Kennedy said, “Ask not what your country can do for you–ask what you can do for your country.” How we have changed in fifty-something years! Fifty per cent of the population is on some government assistance program. What would President Kennedy think? (And he was a Democrat!)
But change starts with the individual. Refuse to get on the entitlement bus and if you’re already riding the bus, get off, put your adult panties on, and do what you need to do for yourself and your family. Learn to be self-actualized and self-reliant. Develop positive, good habits which benefit you and the people around you. And remember, you must be the change you wish to see in the world.