“Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” Socrates
I wonder what he would have thought if saw modern life today. With our smart phones and technology, are lives seem to be busier than ever. Life rushes at an alarming speed. People seem to pride themselves in their busyness. For my late mother, busyness was a badge of honor–her busyness was illustrated by her filled calendar. Often, she judged my life on how busy my social calendar was. But being busy doesn’t mean anything’s being accomplished. Being busy doesn’t mean you’re really working. My daughter, who works and has three children, always says to someone who tells her how busy they are, “Why doesn’t your busy and my busy get together?”
Personally, I feel many people are addicted to busyness. I have an employee who constantly tells me how busy he is. (No, he’s not that busy. At times, perhaps, but then he needs to better manage his time and not talk so much.) Jane Austen said, “Life seems but a quick succession of busy nothing.” And I have to agree. I feel many people have lost time for pleasure, long walks, curling up with a good book, making a craft, especially compared to our grandparents. Has technology made your life easier or harder? Is your life a pressure cooker of things you must do?
It’s the beginning of a new week. Why not examine your busyness and see what you can eliminate to open time up? We all have the same amount of time each day. It’s how we manage our time which makes the difference. Learn to do less and feel good about it. Your health will thank you.
“Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience.” Emerson
One of the reasons I moved to the mountains was to slow my inner life down. It’s hard to have “my panties in a wad” when I’m surrounded with the beauty of the mountains, tall pines, and blue sky. Nature teaches us patience. She also illustrates, if we step back and listen and watch, that we are not in control. The only thing we have control over in our lives is our inner lives, and this is where meditation helps. We must learn to let go and let the Divine. To live in balance, we need to live in harmony and with the rhythms of the seasons. We must respect Nature’s laws and learn to take the seasons and the weather as they come. Even though it’s April, we will have snow tonight. I always think daffodils look beautiful draped in snow. I often find it interesting that people spend a large chunk of their energy complaining about the weather. As if we can control the weather? Even the weathermen can’t get it right and they have computer models.
One of your goals should be to live in balance. Spring is an easier time to achieve balance. The days are longer and usually warmer. The air is filled with the scent of blooming flowers. The sky is blue and the air is fresh. Meditation will help you find that balance.
“A yogi is much more disciplined in his speech. Yogic tradition has it that speech must pass before three barriers prior to be uttered aloud. These barriers come in the form of three questions: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?” Prem Prakash
One of the benefits of living in this country is we have the right of free speech. However, I have witnessed many people abusing this right. Our ancestors fought for this right because the countries they fled did not have this right. Unfortunately, many people abuse this right and intentionally hurt others with their words. When you develop right speech, you become aware of your words because what you say and how you say it has a direct influence on the person you are. How does one develop right speech? Be aware of those you come in contact with. Stay away from lying, haughty behavior, and gossip. If you use harsh words, you will become aggressive. If you partake in gossip, hurtful words will come back to you. Develop right thought, which is the first step before right speech. Our thoughts and emotions are closely linked and they spill out of us verbally. If you indulge in negative thought, this will lead to negative speech, hatred, and jealousy. When you learn to stay in the present moment, you will have the ability to step back and internally ask yourself before you speak: Is it true, is it kind, is it necessary? Most of the times it is not one of those statements.