“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
How many times have you held on to your anger and let it simmer in your body? There are traditions which believe dis-ease is the result of wrongful thinking. Now, I’m not certain if I completely believe it, but I have seen people hold on to their anger until the bitter end. My mother was one of those people. She was angry until a couple of hours before she passed. She gripped the rails of the hospital bed tightly and wouldn’t let go. Who was she mad at? My father, the world, her situation, her own father, and her children pretty much sums it up. Buddhist philosophy states there are three types of angry people. Type 1 is always getting angry and his anger last long. (This would have been my mother. She was still upset over something that occurred when she was twenty and often talked about it.) Type 2 is a person who gets angry and lets it go. (I thought this was me. How naive!) Type 3 is more evolved. This person, even though spoken to harshly, and mistreated doesn’t get angry but becomes agreeable.
I thought I was the type of person who got angry and let it go, but after meditating and doing some reading I discovered I buried the anger deep within my body. So, I have begun the process of coming to terms with it and letting it go. I call upon the Divine to flood my being with white light and heal and let go my anger. I’m not sure if I want to be a Type 3 person because I don’t feel anger is a bad thing. I just need to speak up and let it go, not bury it within because “good girls” are agreeable and pleasers. Ah, the cultural lessons from the sixties.
“Each day is a little life: every waking and rising a little birth, every fresh morning a little youth, every going to rest and sleep a little death.” Arthur Schopenhauer
In Romancing the Vines, Francesca visits Magna, the elderly seer in the countryside of Italy. Her cousin had directed Francesca to see the woman in the hopes some clarity would surface in her soul. “Magna set down her weaving and studied Francesca. ‘You are at a crossroad in your life, but this isn’t the first time you’ve been at this crossroad. It has followed you through the centuries and countless lifetimes.’”
Francesca had difficulty wrapping her head around the fact she had lived before. ‘I’m not sure if I’m at a crossroad, unless you are talking about the wine I’m crafting. God couldn’t be so cruel to give me multiple lifetimes with the same problem.”
Magna laughed. “God is not in the equation. You’re the one who created these lifetimes and lessons. Your problem is you don’t listen to your heart. You’re too wrapped up in your head to see the situation clearly.”
Francesca stared at Magna, who appeared timeless as if she had been around since the conception of wine. “I’m not so sure about that. My heart has gotten me into plenty of troubles.”
Magna waved her gnarled hands, which wore many colorful rings. “Listen, dearie. I have a story to tell you, but you must listen carefully.”
Anna patted Francesca’s knee. “Magna’s a wonderful storyteller. Listen. I’m sure you’ll find it very interesting.” http://tinyurl.com/mmxjybv
“A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.” Buddha
I don’t know about you, but I feel humanity could use a little renewal given the state of the world. (Sometimes when I glance at the news I feel we are back in the Middle Ages!) There was a university study which concluded being generous enhanced one’s life. When you are able to step outside yourself and feel for another person, this creates health in one’s own life. Our basic motivations come from needs which are learned and rewarded by our family, culture, and social setting. So what happens if a generous heart was not taught when you were growing up?
One of the easiest ways is observe those who model a generous heart behavior. While we can all read the lives of the saints and mystics, there are many generous souls who live in your neighborhood or work in your company. What about the grocery checker who always has a warm smile and a kind word when you show up with your filled cart? Observe them, study them, and imitate their behavior. Start each day with the prayer, “How may I serve?” The Universe will give you the opportunity to serve. Usually it’s nothing bigger than sharing a cookie, a laugh, or listening. Other times you will be called to deeper work.
And finally, make sure the words which come out of your mouth are kind. I see many examples of people who speak before they think, often causing harm without really intending to.