Jun 02 2012
But before we try and give love, compassion, and forgiveness to others, first we need to shower ourselves with these traits, and the first one is compassion. I’m sure you’ve met people who literally beat themselves up for any mistake or infraction they commit. They are terribly hard on themselves, and then reflect that attitude to others. So how does one cultivate grace through self-compassion? First, it means that you treat yourself like the precious object that you are. One thing I’ve learned is that if I don’t take care of myself, no one else will. That means that I have boundaries of what I will or won’t do. I honor my body’s wishes, my mind’s desires, and my soul’s urgings. I permit myself to partake in pleasure because I’ve learned that I can’t be truly healthy or happy without pleasure. I listen to my body. If I’m tired, I rest. If I’m hungry, I eat. If I’m tense, I meditate, and I visit my yoga mat daily for that is where I center my body, mind, and spirit. We are all different. You need to find what works for you and then cultivate grace through self-compassion because you alone are responsible for your own happiness.