May 21 2010
Erica Jong (Fear of Flying) once said, “Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one is to blame.” There are many people who do not take responsibility for their own lives, rather blaming others for their circumstances. I experienced that yesterday with several of my employees. Instead of owning up to their mistake (or lack of attention to detail) they threw the other employee under the bus. Shaking my head as I corrected them and the situation they caused, I saw how much simpler their lives would be if they just accepted the fact that they made the mistake. Practicing the steps of The Way I stayed in the moment, had little stress (okay, there was some because was a rather large mistake) and dealt with the situation. When one blames other person they misdirect their energy and cause their body undue stress. (I do believe this mistake was caused by not being in the moment and worrying about their personal problems instead of focusing on their jobs. I have a saying at work: Leave your stuff at the gate. Do not bring your personal problems into work. They’ll be there when you leave, you can just pick them up and take them home.) In order to live simply and stress-free it is important that we accept our mistakes, try to correct them and not repeat the action, and move forward. Then one will not drag suitcases of guilt behind them and their load will be lighter.